I have this thing about me that is all about justice. My oldest son’s middle name is even Justice. In another life I may have become an attorney. I love “Law and Order” and “Divorce Court. I find history extremely interesting and I am excited when I see how the law helps to protect someone who has been wronged. I think that people should treat each other with fairness and kindness and I try as much as I can to behave in such a way that I am kind to people. Somewhere in the middle of my ideals about justice and the reality of grace lies the conundrum of how to make decisions that protect me as a woman but that also show that I live this spiritual life I so often talk about.
I often say that war is necessary for peace. We see it in every example from the playground to the battleground. I once heard someone say, “Sometimes a bully needs a bully”. Sometimes you have to rise up and show your might and your strength. Sometimes you have to win the war so you don’t have to keep fighting. And so that’s what so may of us do. And we do it until it wears us out. And we become the casualties. Our children become the casualties.
My word to you single momma is this.
You may find yourself in the position where you are no longer an ally of your children’s father. You may have plenty to fight about. You may be right. He may be dead wrong. You may be able to get your justice and get it with a smirk on your face. Know this. You will NEVER have to fight. God will fight for you. Exodus 14:14 is a promise to you. God will fight and God will win. He will get justice.
And all you will have to do is be still.